1. I should be eagerly packing the car to head to Oklahoma to see my parents but knowing that I’m traveling towards an epic heat wave seems to be hindering my progress.
I really, really, really love my family.
And 112 degrees can’t be so bad if it’s a dry heat, right?
2. I was pleasantly surprised by a knock on the door Sunday night. It was a neighbor, two doors down, inviting me to breakfast the next morning at the bagel shop. I thought it was really nice of her to do that and I accepted and then spent the next few hours slightly anxious about how I was going to carry a conversation with someone I’d just met. You’d think that because I gab daily with strangers on the Internet that I’d be completely at ease making small talk with a neighbor.
You’d be wrong.
Going to parties where I don’t know anyone? I’m right back in junior high and slightly panicky that I’ll say the wrong thing or, worse yet, not have anything to say. I think it’s because I’ve been out of the daily workforce for so long that I’ve just forgotten how to navigate social situations with ease. Craig and I have talked about my discomfort before (he’s in the people business and his job requires him to make friends all day long and he’s EXCELLENT at it) and he’s right when he says that making conversation is a skill and like any skill, it takes practice.
So I practiced with my neighbor (whose name is Cat and she has three cats) and we had a great time. She was very easy to talk to and while our life experiences have been different, there were similar themes and interests we had that served as springboards for conversation.
As an aside, my friend Momologuer taught me that a great question to ask someone you’ve just met is “What keeps you busy during the day?” This gives them the opportunity to talk about their job, their hobbies, their kids, or whatever they want and avoids that dreaded awkwardness that comes from saying “Tell me about your job” only to find out they’ve just been laid off.
Not that I’ve ever done that before.
3. In about an hour I’m taking JJ to the orthodontist to get his bands and wires put in/installed/attached. I’ve never had braces and don’t know how to relate to this process. The nurse told me that I might want to give him some Tylenol before the appointment because there might be some “discomfort” and I’m hoping that some of you that have had braces or have kids that wear braces might be able to give me a few tips so I can make this as easy as possible for him as he adjusts.
Because being trapped in a car for the next two days with an ill-tempered someone who might be experiencing “discomfort”? That’s a lot scarier than 112 degrees.
Have a nice day.