If you enjoy seeing your husband with a deer in the headlights look about him, ask him to describe you in one word. We were sitting on the couch last night, he was watching a football game and I was reading Chapter 3 of the Maxwell book. The author was talking about how self-esteem influences or retards growth and, as an exercise in developing positive self-esteem, had the reader list 100 good qualities about themselves.
After writing down three things (“Generally punctual”, “Knows all the words to every ABBA song ever written” and “makes a mean guacamole”), I asked Craig to say one word that summed up my personality.
“This is like that ‘Am I fat?’ question, isn’t it? Is there a right answer?”
After assuring him this wasn’t a quiz, he thought long and hard and said, “Steadfast.” It wasn’t a completely surprising word – a variant of “loyal” which is what he used to describe me to his best friend when he first told him he was thinking of marrying me – but sweet to hear nonetheless. (I may have gotten a little misty which made him VERY NERVOUS that he’d picked the wrong word until I clarified I was delighted. Bless his heart, he married a teary woman – it’s a hot mess around here most days.)
So now I have four things on the list and 96 to go. It’s a helpful exercise to combat negative self-talk and it’s also forcing me to really think about who I am.
And that is someone who can still scare her husband after 19 years.
How would you describe yourself in one word?
Have a nice day.