Don’t get too excited, it’s just a test run

My friend Fran texted me over the weekend asking how easy was it to post a blog on WordPress and I told her it was a piece of cake and I’d be glad to walk her through it.  Then I got to thinking about the last time I blogged and logged in to check and it’s been almost two years.


So, going to post a quick update so I can familiarize myself with the new interface (which has probably gone through several iterations in the last 20 months) so I can help Fran tomorrow, and also say hello to those of you who subscribed and are suddenly wondering why a blog post from Sus is showing up in your inbox.

It’s not Friday, but here, in listical form, is what’s going on with me.

1. The kids are graduating from high school in two months.  The transition into this next phase of life is looming a little large but there’s no stopping the freight train so we are rolling with it.  They will be staying home to attend our local community college in the fall which spares me the throes of MY BABIES ARE MOVING OUT for at least another year.

Though, not gonna’ lie, some days we are all ready for everyone to move out.


2.  I gained a bunch of weight because I was depressed and then I lost it and then I got happy that I lost it so I ate celebratory carbs which has threatened to start the process all over again so I’ve joined a CrossFit gym so that I can eat carbs and still fit into my clothes. My class instructor is a 24 year old named Warren who might weigh 145 pounds soaking wet and I alternately want to strangle him for making my lungs explode and also take him home and feed him a biscuit to fatten him up.

The boy needs a casserole.

3.  Craig and I just celebrated our 22nd wedding anniversary and went out for dinner at a local steakhouse that was new to us.  This place is known for their clubby atmosphere and low lighting and that dim light put me at a bit of a disadvantage as I walked past the offerings on the salad bar because I’d forgotten my reading glasses and couldn’t see jack but I piled my plate high with what I could recognize and that’s how I ended up eating a boatload of  anchovies that I thought were kalamata olives.

4.  I wish I could report that I’ve had the opportunity to meet my birthmother who lives twenty minutes away in Chapel Hill but it’s been two years of silence from her.  She does not respond to any of my cards or letters.  It’s been difficult emotionally (see #2) but I’ve learned how to listen to myself and how to process emotions so the experience hasn’t been a total disaster.  It’s been valuable and necessary and I’d do it all again because I’ve become stronger and more emotionally resilient than I’ve been before.  The social worker from my adoption agency told me at the beginning of this journey that I would have to grieve my adoption.  I didn’t know what she meant because I’ve never been sorry that I was adopted.  What I did have to do was mourn a loss that was so deeply embedded in the depths of my psyche that when it was finally acknowledged, it choked me.

Processing the grief has been the primary reason I haven’t blogged in two years.  I’m usually an open book but this all was a little too personal to work through online.  Now that I have some perspective, I’ve been talking about it more in person to friends and family and maybe, one day, will share further thoughts online.

But I can talk about….

5. I met my birthmom’s daughter (otherwise known as my half-sister)  last fall and it was one of the happiest days of my life.  We are in the process of getting to know each other (we’ve already found common ground over a love for tacos) and we’re looking forward to building our relationship in the months to come.  (I’m also now comfortable friends with my half-sisters on my bio dad’s side and hoping to meet one of them this summer.)

There’s a lot more to catch up on (Quilts! Stella! My hairdresser quit!) but that’s all I have to say for now. As always, thanks for reading and being a faithful friend.

Have a nice day.

13 responses to “Don’t get too excited, it’s just a test run

  1. WOW!!! BRAVO!!!

    And my hairdresser moved to your area and she makes house calls.

  2. Great to hear the updates!!

  3. So good to hear from you. I love reading your writing. I kid you not, I actually bought a website from WordPress and have been thinking of starting another blog. I’ve only sat on the idea for about eight months. At this rate I’ll have to pay for the blog again. I’m glad that you took some time to do the healing that you needed to do.

  4. It was soo good to hear you voice! In our world, my husband was forced to resign from his pastorate this week. Evil. Pure evil. Ugly, ugly evil. So we are picking ourselves up off the floor and simultaneously praising the Lord. God is good. But there are some people who are not. And who are going to be in really big trouble one of these days. Sorry to rant in your comments section.

  5. Oh, in other worldly news, I started a fashion blog. Ha! It’s . LOL!!!

  6. I just thought about you on Sunday, wondering about how you and your crew were doing!!!! And here you are!
    So glad to hear from you!

  7. What???? A post from Carpool Queen? You never disappoint. You are enough. Keep posting. Your writing is therapy not only for you but also for those of us who read it. Thank you.

  8. It hasn’t really been almost two years, has it? Dang. Time flies. I hope this can become a regular thing again. Good to read you.

  9. I was wildly excited to see your blog pop up in my email! So good to hear what’s going on. Love, peace and support to you! You are an amazing woman and you always brighten my day! Hope you have an especially bright day!!!!!!!!!!

  10. I have missed you so much! Thanks for the update. I have wondered so many times. We really should talk soon. Love you!

  11. So nice to see this in my feed! I’m obviously on top of things too since you posted 5 days ago, but better late than never. I think of you often and am glad you’ve made contact with your half sister and are working out your feelings about what I’m sure is emotionally complicated. Hubs was only on the Raleigh job for one year, but hope we get back there again one day!

  12. Always good to see you back here again, Sus 🙂

  13. Mercy, it took me 5 months to check in! I love this update and I miss the blogging days- seems so much more in depthy. Love you friend!

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